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/// Jan 2, 2019 8:00:00 AM

Mastering the Intake Session

Posted by Jay Hedley

An Extraordinary Awakening

Our goal in CCM&S is to give you the developmental tools you need to do less.  In the end, it is about facilitating the client to new realisations about self-belief structures that frame the way they filter and perceive reality. These filters then create challenges of perception -  internal constructions about the external world. However, there are no actual problems in the external world; all problems in the external world only exist internally about the external world.

 

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The Intake Session

The purpose of the intake session is to establish an understanding with the client about the issue or issues that need to be addressed.  Your role as a coach is to engage people in their own development. We do this through facilitating a clear understanding of what is truly going on for a client internally by bringing them a blinding clarity about the truth.

The intake session is a time where you can set the frames of the coaching relationship. The client provides their idea of the problem. As a coach, you need to check in and engage with them to uncover what the problem really is. The coach and the client come together to explore and identify what the client doesn’t know that they don’t know. When they do know, it will facilitate realisations that lead them to choose coaching as their methodology for self-actualisation.  

 

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Setting the Foundation

Setting the foundation is about framing. You need to frame where you are going, what the territory is likely to be, and what your approach is. Speak about things that may come up as issues or struggles along the way. Frame  the relationship, what it is and isn’t, roles and responsibilities etc.

 

Coaching Topic

Once the foundation is set, you need to get into the heart of the coaching topic to explain that you may discover self-belief structures along the way, that drive the filters that are impacting the way the person experiences reality. You will be going deeper and deeper to get to the truth. This is done through direct and open questions; not by taking in what we think we know, but seeking first to understand how the person processes.

Our job is to listen to the patterns and also to listen to the unique way that the person expresses those patterns. As we start to hear that, we can reveal to the client the blind spots that they cannot see about their self-belief structures that are running the show.  To bring about a person’s blind spots you need to do exactly what is needed in the moment. This goes back to your way of being. Let go of the need to be anything, simply be there and allow the process to unfold itself. Your presence, attention, and intention need to be in the moment. The process will run itself if you allow it to by getting yourself out of the way.

A developmental coach is an authentic expression of the universe that provides the spaciousness needed for the client to make the inquiry to discover what they have yet to discover about themselves. Remember, they are doing the work, not you.

Use communication loops and provide feedback in terms of metaphors. Check in to see how the client feels about what they are discovering. The client wants to know if you as the coach will be able to show them something they were not able to see on their own.  We hold our way of being as presence, going beyond trust into intimacy by allowing ourselves to be an open resource that the client can pull upon to facilitate their own development.

 

Questions AQAL

Our questions are AQAL, across four quadrants. We look at the client, as the client, and take a systems perspective. We listen for cultural frames; these are frames that have nothing to do with what the client believes but are outside expectations that they put on themselves in the face of others.  Our job is to feed those frames back to them and ask where they come from.

 

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Listen for Patterns

Our questions are about lines of development, strengths, and weaknesses. They are around understanding personality structures. They are about the stage of consciousness of the person. All of this is about expressing their current way of perceiving, doing, and taking action. It is about sharing, relating, and communicating to reveal the patterns that the client is blind to in their experience of themselves in the world.

 

Establish an Agreement

As we hear all this and take it in, the time comes to establish an agreement for a way forward for the person to begin investing in their developmental unfolding.  They need to agree to invest in who they are as a human being and a desire to become much more fully human so they can express themselves in the way they want to express themselves. This allows them to do what they already know how to do but are not doing. With coaching, clients can free themselves of the constraints that they’ve held themselves under. They can break free of the gravity of the stages of development around them, so they are no longer subject to the frameworks and stages that are holding them and maintaining them in their status quo.

We are about waking them to their fullest potential as human beings in this integral approach to developmental coaching.

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